advice: how to escape hate?
i have so much hate in my body my teeth tend to clench up, my nails dig into my skin, and i don't know how to dispose of it. anger is a by-product of emotional pain and the only person it harms, is the one harboring the hate. i suppose stepping back and thinking of the multitude of reasons i'm hurting, whether it was intentional or not and trying to get some fresh perspective on the whole, could clear my clouded thoughts. it’s inevitable that we will face some disappointments, rejections and frustrations, it’s all part and parcel of being alive.
the opposite of hatred is love, and that's why getting rid of hatred is so difficult. its a strong searing vanquish. you can neglect it; pretend you're fine, but then you're hoarding this massive lie with you and forcing yourself to believe it. it's like saying "i don't care." that would be a lie you'd have to repeat to yourself until you believed it, and you'd still be believing a lie. it's like capping a volcano and calling it extinct.
do you like and respect yourself? has what this other person did, that hurt you, cause you to doubt yourself? do you fear there is a grain of truth in what they said or did that you don't like seeing in yourself? when you are honest with yourself and face the fact that you are human and as such not perfect, nor is anyone else, then you can come to control your hurts and anger. perhaps you were disappointed in someone you thought better of and felt betrayed by their actions and because you don't know their reasons for doing what they did, you allow it to eat at you. cut the other person some slack, and yourself as well. you are going to be hurt and angry a great many times in your life but once you acknowledge it, put it away. everything happens for a purpose, you probably don't have all the facts and you allow it to color your personality. understanding and being honest with yourself is the key to learning to manage your emotions. if it hurts, you still care. acknowledge it, move forward.
it hurts, i still care and i know that. i suppose that is the first step.
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Postat av: :)
Great text, love it. You have many remarkable points. things hurt, but you know, in the end it only makes you stronger :)
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thankss, :)x
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